Your father follows your mother everywhere: kitchen, laundry room, bathroom door. If she steps outside to get the mail he panics. It is called shadowing, it is common in Alzheimer’s, and it leaves the spouse with no moment alone. In home Alzheimer’s care Lombard IL families arrange with Guided with Grace eases it with a trained caregiver he comes to trust, who keeps him occupied and reassured, so your mother can take a shower, make a phone call or go to the store without an anxious man at her heels.
Our dementia and Alzheimer’s support gives each day a steady routine. When a person shadows a spouse, the aim is to help him feel safe with someone else, a little at a time.
As needs grow, the plan grows: respite for your mother, personal care and in time overnight help, ideally with the same caregiver.
These situations bring Lombard families to us.
He cannot bear her out of sight. A trusted caregiver lets her have some time again.
Where is she? When is she back? A calm, patient answer every time.
A quiet routine eases the anxiety as the light fades.
No time alone takes its toll. Regular help protects her health.
There is good dementia support in and around Lombard.
Shadowing usually comes from fear: the person with dementia feels safe only with the one familiar face, and panics when it disappears. It tends to ease when a second trusted person becomes part of the routine. That takes patience and consistency, which is why the first weeks go slowly and the caregiver stays the same.
The Alzheimer’s Association Illinois Chapter serves DuPage County with support groups and a 24/7 Helpline at 1-800-272-3900, and the DuPage County Care Center hosts a caregiver support group. AgeGuide’s Family Caregiver Support Program (1-800-528-2000) offers respite, counseling and legal help. For residents 60 and older who qualify, DuPage County Community Services (630-407-6500) runs the Community Care Program, which can include adult day services.
York Township Senior Services at 1502 South Meyers Road offers Senior Rides (630-620-2424), free equipment loans and help with benefits, and the DuPage Senior Citizens Council, based in Lombard, delivers Meals on Wheels. Endeavor Health Elmhurst Hospital and Advocate Good Samaritan are nearby; after a hospital stay, extra caregiver hours help someone with dementia settle back in.
We provide dementia care in Lombard, Villa Park and Glen Ellyn. Read about our caregivers.
Shadowing eases only when he feels safe with someone else, and that takes consistency. Our caregivers are trained to provide structured, long-term care tailored to memory-related conditions, and each is screened, background checked and trained before placement. Guided with Grace is a licensed and insured non-medical home care agency in Illinois.
He keeps the same caregiver wherever possible. See the FAQ page.
We go slowly at first.
Call (630) 608-3956 or use the contact page. Tell us about the diagnosis and his routines.
A relaxed first visit while she is home.
Short visits first, then longer ones as he settles.
Care can often begin within a few days of the consultation.
What Lombard families add over time.
Our memory-care caregivers also work nearby.
Yes. With a gradual introduction and a consistent caregiver, most people become comfortable enough for the spouse to have regular time alone.
Something simple and reassuring, such as that she is at the store and will be back soon, followed by an activity he enjoys.
Yes. Many families use both.
It varies, but many families see progress within a few weeks: first a short errand, then a longer outing. We go at his pace and report back after each visit.
That is our aim wherever possible.
Yes. As his needs grow, personal care can be added to the same visits, done discreetly and in the same order each time.
Supervision during visits prevents most problems, and we can suggest simple measures for other hours.
Often, with more hours. We will tell you honestly if it stops being safe.
Yes, and Elmhurst, Oakbrook Terrace, Addison and Glendale Heights.
Tell us about your father and the diagnosis. Call (630) 608-3956 or schedule a consultation.
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